Putting a curse on my stepson to get a job?

[PinealisGlandia]

My stepson causes me stress. He's 26 and couchsurfing with strangers because my wife and I told him he had to have a job to live with us and he refuses. When pressed, he claims he has his own business selling art and music, but he doesn't put the energy into it necessary for a business, it's a hobby. On top of that, he's convinced he knows the law from watching sovereign citizen videos on the internet (he doesn't call himself a sovereign citizen, but he showed me paperwork he filed indicating that the all lowercase version of his name filed a lein against the all upper case version of his name for $32,000,000,000, which is right up sovereign citizen belief system). So in his own words, he doesn't have to work because he's this close to having access to the secret Social Security treasury account in his name that we all have access to.

He burns himself and cuts himself and comes over to our house with them on his body and blasély admits to doing it, but when we tried intervening, the police told us since he didn't say he wants to kill himself, they can't put him in a mental health hold.

I know the young man needs mental health help and stable work (I have nothing against starting your own business, but he lived here for three months and only recorded music using licensed beats he can't publish, that tells me it's a hobby; he's made his own music from scratch before, he just doesn't like doing it. His words.). After he moved out from our place he didn't talk to us for about a month and it was the middle of winter so we were worried about him. I burnt a bunch of cedar under a photograph of him and the next day we got an update on how he was doing and a couple days later he came by to apologize for being an asshole while he lived with us. Now I'm looking for the next step.

My practice is eclectic, so I'm open to any suggestions besides just having a conversation with him, that's already been tried to death. I'm calling it a curse because the ritual goes against his will, but obviously it's for his benefit. The goal of the ritual is for him to get stable work and mental health help.

Tools I have available include:

• Small candles of almost every color
• Cedar, sage and tobacco.
• Speakers that can fill the house with tones/music
• Paint and canvases
• All sorts of shiny stones

Simple tools that cost less than $5 may be considered, i.e if it's an herb missing from my pantry. Otherwise I'll substitute, i.e playing a chime on the speakers instead of purchasing a chime.

My go-to would be a sigil on a painting, but I'm lacking inspiration. I usually use the method of reducing from a simple phrase just to consonants, then arranging those consonants in a shape and abstracting that into art, or else simply borrowing symbols like runes and combining them based on the meaning/outcome I'm after. But I'm usually doing majiq for myself, and I'm struggling to reduce this to a simple enough phrase to sigilize. Any suggestions on ritualwork to perform are appreciated. Any suggestions on what my stepson should do will fall on deaf ears so please focus on the majiq aspect of this.

 

[AbammonTheGreat]

I'm sorry but I couldn't help but laughing from the lein on his own name.

So I think what you're dealing with, even if with good intentions, is messing with someone's free will which will magically backfire on you. This is why targeted love spells are generally avoided by experienced practitioners and why people don't cast spells on drug addicts to get sober (because the magic doesn't solve the core issue it just exacerbates the issue by blocking off its regular manifest and channeling it into a different maladaptive avenue).

The wise approach to dealing with loved ones who are just not getting it is to provide fortune and protection spells (to try to mitigate their bottoming out) while working on our own personal issues with accepting them for where they are at (this is done alchemically, contemplatively, or through meditation).

What you can do to help further his own path, or bring him into the light so to speak, is appeal to a spirit or godform to help him. However it is largely his decision to walk through the door when presented with the opportunity for change. Solar spells are great for "illuminating" someone's mind. These can be done with any gold (jewelry) laying around the house and sandalwood incense.

I am a magical father as well and as tempting as it can be to use our abilities to "help" our children we have to understand as magus that when we take magical shortcuts we rob someone of their personal journey and development. Ultimately stunting their life path. You can tell your kid not to touch the stove all you want but every once in a while you gotta let them burn themselves to get the picture.