I’m attempting to turn Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People into a chaos magick grimoire of influence, with each point not just explained but given examples and practical techniques. This is a direct copy/paste from my personal writings. If anyone can find use from it, awesome. If you use it, give it at least 30 days and watch it work. I'd like to hear about it, as well but that's up to you.
Let’s go point by point and expand into a working magical frame you can train with daily:
1. Reality as Fluid: People as Mutable Symbols
Carnegie: Every person has a unique perspective.
Chaos Magick; Every person is a symbol set, an archetypal mask you can work with.
Techniques & Examples
2. Emotional Contagion as Force Manipulation
Carnegie → Smile, praise, listen, avoid criticism.
Chaos Magick → Emotions are energetic currents you can send like spells.
Techniques & Examples
3. Identity Magic
Carnegie → Make others feel important, talk in their terms.
Chaos Magick → Identity is a mask; you can sculpt the one they’re wearing in the moment.
Techniques & Examples
4. Intent + Form = Effect
Carnegie → The small behaviors (smile, listen, name use) shape perception.
Chaos Magick → Sigil formula: Intent + Symbol + Charge = Manifestation.
Techniques & Examples
5. Social Operations as Low-Risk Spellcraft
Carnegie → It’s about practicing habits of interaction.
Chaos Magick → Every conversation = mini-ritual, with low stakes but cumulative power.
Techniques & Examples
6. Framing It in Chaos Terms (The Ritual of Influence)
This is the grimoire-level summary.
Ritual: The Art of Influence
Example in Practice (Putting It All Together)
You walk into a meeting with your boss:
The diary can double as your Book of Shadows of Influence. Each interaction becomes a log of magical experiments where Carnegie = the spellbook, and the world = your temple.
Now to build a 30-Day Chaos Magician Influence Spellbook — each day is a ritualized exercise, linked to a principle from the expanded grimoire, with concrete micro-evocations, intent, and logging prompts.
Here’s the full 30-day framework:
30-Day Chaos Magician Influence Spellbook
Days 1–5: Foundations of Energy Awareness
Day 1 – Observation as Scrying
Days 6–10: Sigils & Micro-Evocations
Day 6 – Smile Sigil
Days 11–15: Identity Magic & Archetype Alignment
Day 11 – Archetype Recognition
Days 16–20: Bending Resistance & Conflict Transmutation
Day 16 – Agreement as Key
Days 21–25: Empowerment & Anchoring Influence
Day 21 – Empowerment Exit
Days 26–30: Integration & Meta-Ritual
Day 26 – Full-Day Ritual Awareness
This gives you a fully structured 30-day chaos magick “Carnegie” course that maps principles to ritualized exercises. Each day can be logged in your diary or ritual journal, turning social skill into energy mastery.
Let’s go point by point and expand into a working magical frame you can train with daily:
1. Reality as Fluid: People as Mutable Symbols
Carnegie: Every person has a unique perspective.
Chaos Magick; Every person is a symbol set, an archetypal mask you can work with.
Techniques & Examples
- Symbol Mapping: When you meet someone, quickly “read” them as an archetype: The King (authority), The Child (seeks validation), The Trickster (tests boundaries), etc. This turns the person into a magical symbol you can approach as if invoking an entity.
- Conversational Sigils: Treat key words (their name, their interests) as sigils that unlock rapport. Example: repeating “Well, Sarah, that’s exactly what I was thinking…” charges her name with attention energy.
- Gesture Magic: Your nod, smile, posture = glyphs that activate resonance in the person-symbol.
2. Emotional Contagion as Force Manipulation
Carnegie → Smile, praise, listen, avoid criticism.
Chaos Magick → Emotions are energetic currents you can send like spells.
Techniques & Examples
- Praise as Enchantment: When you sincerely appreciate someone, you’re casting glamour. “You really have a sharp eye for detail” embeds a subtle current that makes them want to live up to it.
- Complaint Banishing: Criticism = sending baneful energy. Instead, reframe it like banishing with laughter or curiosity. Example: instead of “You’re late again,” say, “You’ve been running time experiments again, haven’t you?” → lightens energy while addressing issue.
- Mood Anchoring: Enter with strong positive energy (smile, grounded body language). You “entrain” others into your current like a tuning fork.
3. Identity Magic
Carnegie → Make others feel important, talk in their terms.
Chaos Magick → Identity is a mask; you can sculpt the one they’re wearing in the moment.
Techniques & Examples
- Archetype Elicitation: Find what identity they most want to embody, and amplify it. Talking to a boss? “Your leadership reminds me of…” → invokes their King archetype.
- Role Alignment: Temporarily match your role to theirs for rapport. With a mentor, play the eager student; with a peer, mirror as ally.
- Sigilized Compliment: Encode an identity reinforcement into praise. Example: Instead of “You did a good job,” say “That was masterful — you’re a natural strategist.” You’re writing a sigil into their self-concept.
4. Intent + Form = Effect
Carnegie → The small behaviors (smile, listen, name use) shape perception.
Chaos Magick → Sigil formula: Intent + Symbol + Charge = Manifestation.
Techniques & Examples
- Smile Spell: Intent = welcome energy. Form = relaxed smile. Effect = other person feels warmth and trust.
- Name Invocation: Intent = amplify attention. Form = say their name at key moments. Effect = deep unconscious rapport.
- Listening as Evocation: Intent = draw out their energy. Form = silence + eye contact + small affirmations. Effect = they reveal themselves, giving you their symbolic keys.
5. Social Operations as Low-Risk Spellcraft
Carnegie → It’s about practicing habits of interaction.
Chaos Magick → Every conversation = mini-ritual, with low stakes but cumulative power.
Techniques & Examples
- Daily Practice: Treat social interactions as your banishing rituals of the day. Each time you apply Carnegie’s principles, log them like magical experiments.
- Energy Tracking: Note how your own state shifts before/after interactions. Did the spell succeed? Did it backfire?
- Micro-Sigil Log: Write down “spells” you tried. Example: [Intent: build trust → Form: name + smile → Effect: person relaxed shoulders]
6. Framing It in Chaos Terms (The Ritual of Influence)
This is the grimoire-level summary.
Ritual: The Art of Influence
- Tools: Attention, praise, genuine interest, body language.
- Procedure:
- Observe subject as symbol/archetype.
- Identify their drives and align with them.
- Cast micro-sigils (words, gestures, names).
- Anchor positive currents; banish negativity with humor or reframing.
- Leave them empowered (so energy exchange remains renewable).
- Goal: Align their perception with your intent while strengthening your own presence.
Example in Practice (Putting It All Together)
You walk into a meeting with your boss:
- You map him as The King archetype.
- You invoke rapport by saying, “I really admire how decisively you handled that last issue.” → identity magic.
- You repeat his name at the start/end: “Good morning, David…” and “Thanks for your time, David.” → sigil invocation.
- You match his posture slightly, listen intently, ask questions in his interest. → energy resonance.
- He leaves feeling respected and competent. You leave having subtly aligned him to support your agenda.
The diary can double as your Book of Shadows of Influence. Each interaction becomes a log of magical experiments where Carnegie = the spellbook, and the world = your temple.
Now to build a 30-Day Chaos Magician Influence Spellbook — each day is a ritualized exercise, linked to a principle from the expanded grimoire, with concrete micro-evocations, intent, and logging prompts.
Here’s the full 30-day framework:
30-Day Chaos Magician Influence Spellbook
Days 1–5: Foundations of Energy Awareness
Day 1 – Observation as Scrying
- Intent: Tune into others’ energy currents.
- Ritual Act: Observe one person for 10 min without speaking; note posture, gestures, tone, archetype.
- Micro-Evocation: Silent attunement.
- Log: Archetype, energy shifts, resonance effect.
- Intent: Center and charge your aura.
- Ritual Act: 5 min of conscious breathing before interactions; imagine energy radiating from you.
- Micro-Evocation: Smile, small nods.
- Log: Level of centeredness, reactions noticed.
- Intent: Set daily influence objective.
- Ritual Act: Write a short sigil/intention in your diary for the day.
- Micro-Evocation: Repeat internally before each interaction.
- Log: What you intended vs. what occurred.
- Intent: Detect shifts in others’ mood and energy.
- Ritual Act: During conversation, note subtle changes in posture, tone, gestures.
- Micro-Evocation: Silent acknowledgment and mirroring.
- Log: Observed currents and adjustments made.
- Intent: Transform tension into neutral/positive energy.
- Ritual Act: Encounter minor irritation; pause, breathe, reframe or use humor.
- Micro-Evocation: Smile, playful comment.
- Log: Tension transmuted, personal energy after.
Days 6–10: Sigils & Micro-Evocations
Day 6 – Smile Sigil
- Intent: Open defenses.
- Ritual Act: Smile intentionally in all interactions.
- Log: Response of others, personal energy.
- Intent: Anchor attention and recognition.
- Ritual Act: Say names at greeting, key points, parting.
- Log: Resonance and rapport effect.
- Intent: Build subtle alignment.
- Ritual Act: Match gestures, tone, pace.
- Log: Ease of conversation, subconscious rapport indicators.
- Intent: Draw out key information and energy.
- Ritual Act: Let the other speak while you affirm minimally.
- Log: Insights gained, energy shifts noted.
- Intent: Embed energy-script.
- Ritual Act: Give specific, authentic compliments.
- Log: Immediate reaction, follow-up behavior observed.
Days 11–15: Identity Magic & Archetype Alignment
Day 11 – Archetype Recognition
- Intent: Identify masks in play.
- Ritual Act: Label archetypes in diary (King, Warrior, Trickster, etc.)
- Log: Observed behaviors, energy patterns.
- Intent: Reinforce desirable archetype.
- Ritual Act: Compliment or guide aligned with that archetype.
- Log: Responses, resonance changes.
- Intent: Respect identity to strengthen influence.
- Ritual Act: Acknowledge roles/status before guiding conversation.
- Log: Cooperation levels and energy shifts.
- Intent: Guide without resistance.
- Ritual Act: Suggest improvements via examples, stories, or reflection.
- Log: Compliance, understanding, energy effect.
- Intent: Implant ideas subtly.
- Ritual Act: Pose guiding questions or metaphors.
- Log: Acceptance of idea as “their own.”
Days 16–20: Bending Resistance & Conflict Transmutation
Day 16 – Agreement as Key
- Intent: Unlock defenses before divergence.
- Ritual Act: Begin by acknowledging truth in their view.
- Log: Reduced resistance, outcome alignment.
- Intent: Influence without opposition.
- Ritual Act: Reframe criticism as neutral observation.
- Log: Conflict transformation success.
- Intent: Influence subtly through narrative.
- Ritual Act: Share illustrative stories instead of directives.
- Log: Receptivity, subconscious alignment.
- Intent: Align their will with yours.
- Ritual Act: Offer controlled choices, leading to desired outcome.
- Log: Decision-making patterns, alignment effect.
- Intent: Dissolve tension without loss of control.
- Ritual Act: Encounter real disagreement, transmute via humor, story, or curiosity.
- Log: Success, residual energy patterns.
Days 21–25: Empowerment & Anchoring Influence
Day 21 – Empowerment Exit
- Intent: Leave allies charged.
- Ritual Act: End conversation with genuine empowerment phrase.
- Log: Energy felt by others, repeated engagement.
- Intent: Tie successes to your presence.
- Ritual Act: Recognize wins, link subtly to your influence.
- Log: Behavior reinforcement noted.
- Intent: Observe how your micro-evocations affect others’ energy.
- Ritual Act: Track reactions to praise, smiles, mirroring.
- Log: Which currents worked best.
- Intent: Combine multiple techniques in a single interaction.
- Ritual Act: Smile + name + mirror + praise in one conversation.
- Log: Compounded effects, energy synergy.
- Intent: Adjust techniques in real time.
- Ritual Act: Respond to cues, shift archetype amplification, modulate energy.
- Log: Flexibility and outcome effectiveness.
Days 26–30: Integration & Meta-Ritual
Day 26 – Full-Day Ritual Awareness
- Intent: Treat the entire day as a spellfield.
- Ritual Act: Log every interaction, archetype, micro-evocation, and outcome.
- Log: Comprehensive reflection.
- Intent: Shift your influence to match multiple archetypes.
- Ritual Act: Move from mirror/feedback to amplification seamlessly.
- Log: Flow mastery, energy responsiveness.
- Intent: Make your guidance feel entirely self-generated to others.
- Ritual Act: Story, choice, question, metaphor combined.
- Log: Acceptance and alignment success.
- Intent: Consolidate your influence energy.
- Ritual Act: Reflection, sigil writing, conscious “drawing in” of your energy.
- Log: Personal energy levels, control of aura.
- Intent: Harmonize all skills into daily practice.
- Ritual Act: Treat every interaction as conscious spellcraft, combining observation, micro-evocations, archetype alignment, and empowerment.
- Log: Lessons learned, cumulative influence patterns, next cycle planning.
This gives you a fully structured 30-day chaos magick “Carnegie” course that maps principles to ritualized exercises. Each day can be logged in your diary or ritual journal, turning social skill into energy mastery.
