Dating as an Occultist

[Gurublue]

Dude this is probably the most difficult thing. Finding a woman who is spirtual at a similar capacity or is into the occult herself. I am a 32 year old male in Southern California and generally, I attract a good amount of women that I find physically attractive. However, I dont find them mentally attractive. Which in the end is the most important part for me. They are missing that spiritual flare that my soul desires. I realized I need a magickal woman. Someone who understands my world as an occultist and that I can be myself around. For those who know, where could I find people like us to date. Im tired of the mundane relationships and crave for something deeper and magickal. Any ideas ?

 

[Ohana]

If your in southern California that shouldn't be too hard. Dating apps and then filtering by interest. Some of the apps might be able to filter by interest. There also might a specific dating app that occultist generally want to go too.

Adding in the bio section that you like the occult could help. Or saying specifically in the bio that you only want other people that are also in the occult making your preferences known.

Getting into occult communities might be beneficial too like researching them.

 

[Vandheer]

Im tired of the mundane relationships and crave for something deeper and magickal. Any ideas ?

Maybe introduce them into occult?

 

[Gurublue]

thanks you guys

 

[Morell]

Dude this is probably the most difficult thing. Finding a woman who is spirtual at a similar capacity or is into the occult herself. I am a 32 year old male in Southern California and generally, I attract a good amount of women that I find physically attractive. However, I dont find them mentally attractive. Which in the end is the most important part for me. They are missing that spiritual flare that my soul desires. I realized I need a magickal woman. Someone who understands my world as an occultist and that I can be myself around. For those who know, where could I find people like us to date. Im tired of the mundane relationships and crave for something deeper and magickal. Any ideas ?

In Wicca circles? In the closest occult store? Among tarot readers?

 

[Amadeus]

Dating apps and then filtering by interest

Are you sure about the apps, I have not heard about anybody having success with those. Spiritual people often meet through courses, it might even be possible to find through something as basic as a yoga class. Another good idea is to do some ritual work for it, then take part of some courses, look around, be active socially.

 

[Ohana]

Are you sure about the apps, I have not heard about anybody having success with those. Spiritual people often meet through courses, it might even be possible to find through something as basic as a yoga class. Another good idea is to do some ritual work for it, then take part of some courses, look around, be active socially.

It kind of depends on the app in my opinion. I've heard that some or maybe most just want to you to buy premium but I've heard some sucess stories with a few.

But your right that finding someone by being active in real life is probably the tried and true method.

 

[Durward]

Dude this is probably the most difficult thing. Finding a woman who is spirtual at a similar capacity or is into the occult herself. I am a 32 year old male in Southern California and generally, I attract a good amount of women that I find physically attractive. However, I dont find them mentally attractive. Which in the end is the most important part for me. They are missing that spiritual flare that my soul desires. I realized I need a magickal woman. Someone who understands my world as an occultist and that I can be myself around. For those who know, where could I find people like us to date. Im tired of the mundane relationships and crave for something deeper and magickal. Any ideas ?

Use your magick? No crystal ball? Amulet? Talisman? Maybe midnight on a full moon at some location known for occult events. But seriously, you just put it out there in the universe by posting, now say it out loud a few times, and stop. Wait and see if you get what you wish for.

 

[Gurublue]

Use your magick? No crystal ball? Amulet? Talisman? Maybe midnight on a full moon at some location known for occult events. But seriously, you just put it out there in the universe by posting, now say it out loud a few times, and stop. Wait and see if you get what you wish for.

Thank you!

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Are you sure about the apps, I have not heard about anybody having success with those. Spiritual people often meet through courses, it might even be possible to find through something as basic as a yoga class. Another good idea is to do some ritual work for it, then take part of some courses, look around, be active socially.

Thank you!

 

[Lord_Cthulhu]

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[Accipeveldare]

Dude this is probably the most difficult thing. Finding a woman who is spirtual at a similar capacity or is into the occult herself. I am a 32 year old male in Southern California and generally, I attract a good amount of women that I find physically attractive. However, I dont find them mentally attractive. Which in the end is the most important part for me. They are missing that spiritual flare that my soul desires. I realized I need a magickal woman. Someone who understands my world as an occultist and that I can be myself around. For those who know, where could I find people like us to date. Im tired of the mundane relationships and crave for something deeper and magickal. Any ideas ?

I purposefully found one that wasnt into the occult. The reason being, that they could serve as a grounding energy while im exploring the clouds. They dont have to understand, just be there and be quiet enough that i dont break focus. Thatd all i ask.

 

[Gurublue]

I purposefully found one that wasnt into the occult. The reason being, that they could serve as a grounding energy while im exploring the clouds. They dont have to understand, just be there and be quiet enough that i dont break focus. Thatd all i ask.

Interesting! Did you tell them early on that you were into the occult or did you break it to them later on? How did it go?

 

[Accipeveldare]

Interesting! Did you tell them early on that you were into the occult or did you break it to them later on? How did it go?

I made sure they knew up front. They thought it was pretty cool and joked that i could "curse anyone that tries to hit in me" as she said. So as long as they are okay with it, they dont need to understand the actual process.

 

[Gurublue]

I made sure they knew up front. They thought it was pretty cool and joked that i could "curse anyone that tries to hit in me" as she said. So as long as they are okay with it, they dont need to understand the actual process.

Thats awesome, thank you for your input really.

 

[ElectricEgregore]

Dude this is probably the most difficult thing. Finding a woman who is spirtual at a similar capacity or is into the occult herself. I am a 32 year old male in Southern California and generally, I attract a good amount of women that I find physically attractive. However, I dont find them mentally attractive. Which in the end is the most important part for me. They are missing that spiritual flare that my soul desires. I realized I need a magickal woman. Someone who understands my world as an occultist and that I can be myself around. For those who know, where could I find people like us to date. Im tired of the mundane relationships and crave for something deeper and magickal. Any ideas ?

What can I say - About same age an in Germany - I managed to attract an equally deep woman/succubus some about 2 years ago - and I am still recovering. Be careful what you wish for She was a very challenged mind, a natural witch, pure chaos with dangerous half knowledge, but extremely deep skills/practices that came to her naturally/by her trauma and prior psychosis experiences/family ties to cultural folk magick/her constant sexual manifestation through nymphomaniac masturbation and visualization/blood binding of her victims XD

I met her in the psycore scene, the deepest kind of psychedelic scene so to speak - when something cracked in her self through dance she unlocked a kali-like ecstatic dancing that was bridging madness and divinity.
But her disorganized attachment style, causing deep unfounded envy, just magnified by her traumatic experienced mixed with man-hating feminism and self worth problems in combo with critical race theory-esque outlook (she saw through it but used all of these for hedonism to mask her deep hatred for herself as she ruined all her relationships), made my relationship with a typical borderline woman before that seem like a holiday.

She like many of the self titled feminists(that have nothing to do with real feminism, just use this for justifying their hedonism and toxic behavior towards men) - she kept her orbiters, meaning weak simps she can suck dry if she feels like it, circling around her to be spoiled and, yeah get them to fix stuff in her flat, get her new essentials when something breaks etc XD

Some of these simps also made potions and self made cosmetics for her that were made with "special care" - meaning special herbs, i guess fluids, and some goetic magick. I de-activated these with some magick of my own just guessing he would do this - and it worked - not talking about it my ex said to me 2 days later "I suddenly do not feel like his cosmetic stuff anymore". lol

End of story - it ended with a full on sorcerers war, she mentally (in a mad genius hannibal lecter totally uninhibited way) and physically abused me, threatened me with a knifa and more, threatened me with ruining my reputation/sending dagestani (it's the russian country with the mma fighter islamists) psychopaths and refugees my way, doxing me, forcing me to self harm so etc. All the good stuff

Sometimes I think it's true what I heard from some other artists - that two artists are more likely trouble than a true match,
same can be true for occultists, as they usually have completely different systems most likely.

My first encounter with this was a woman before I went really deep into the occult myself, that was a little deeper into wicca type magick -
I visited her, making one of my first spells ever (stupid i know) imagining a cute scene of some fun interaction and hugging in some shopping szenario - exaclty that happened, but collided with her spell it seems to me - we slept in her flat she freshly moved in after the guy living there before her unalived himself in there - I gifted her a fox skull - she did some wicca type shit playing grimes music - It kinda went well and we almost began to cuddle a lil harder - when suddenly i felt like possesed throgh the whole night - like waking up, behaving weird, having nightmares, looking like in movies with wide open eyes, contorted towards the ceiling. Weirded her out, took back the bus in an 5 hour drive blasting the album hochlega by dopethrone the way back XD

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That one was my first occultist/occultist match.

Yeah, maybe join some serious occult order, get your life ruined in the process and meet someone in the same kind of paradigm - or join some right hand path club and give up part of your individuality.

Very few are worth it in the modern day and age, unless you really travel and work hard on expressing/living your insides out so someone will see you, everyone has his counterpart - at least I believe that for the blessed that are not totally malformed - and even then - but the social climate in the west is just the anti-serum to natural connection - as it completely destroyed natural dynamics of the sexes. My advice? Move to south america dude XD (ze west iz dead)

Or to be fair - just have an eye on attachement styles, some are going to possibly ruin your life, especially if they bring their own occult twist into it. Otherwise try to connect irl with some circles, outdoors people, the "darker hippie types", u know chelsea wolfe types.
Create and attract your bubble - idiot-maxxing is the motto - put imperfect shit out, death grip the passion and let them souls be attracted by your corrupted light. The only way to attract the right kind is to not care to attract them, by just doubling down on ones own wildest dreams/being in ones element. A little knowledge about bio-evolutionary truths also helps, but maybe it's better to find an open minded one that is a little bit wicca-ish that respects your weird rituals, then let her grow with you, than any other type of scenario. But yeah, I am just some biased boi that learned this and that, so whatever, right?

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(the album link is bad quality I wanted to add, anyone who wants to listen to this better search for the album in yt again)

 

[ElectricEgregore]

The sad thing about attachment styles is that those are formed through early bonding and early childhood experiences with relationships - so the people deserving it the least end up screwing up their relationships - meaning many with disorganized attachment styles have experienced childhood abuse or lack of care. That's where my ex's attachment style mainly came from. It was seriously one of the most challenging times of my life - and I had my fair share before that.

Long story short - through that my heavily theory based occultism research and interest finally became practical -
through deep moments of need and experiencing effects first hand many times in the process.

We both, while ending this in a way agreed that we just made "10 years of soul progress in 6 months".

 

[Thee Nightfool]

I don't date. Problem solved.

 

[Accipeveldare]

I don't date. Problem solved.

Well, that is certainly one way to do it

 

[Sedim Haba]

If your in southern California that shouldn't be too hard. Dating apps and then filtering by interest. Some of the apps might be able to filter by interest. There also might a specific dating app that occultist generally want to go too.

Adding in the bio section that you like the occult could help. Or saying specifically in the bio that you only want other people that are also in the occult making your preferences known.

Getting into occult communities might be beneficial too like researching them.

Not all dating apps are equal for Pagans/Occultists. I was on Bumble and Match and they sucked. There's no Religion label even close.

You have the choice of 'Other', 'Spiritual but not Religious' and 'I'll tell you later'. Hard to attract OR find others you share Magick with.

I'm looking into eHarmony right now, one choice is 'Metaphysical' and there's many others too! Three times as many as Match/Bumble!

I will look into OKCupid now too, I know they're more diverse as well. If you get on a dating app and can't find an appropriate religion

for yourself or who you want to match with, just quit it and try another. Dating apps are hard and frustrating enough without guessing games.