Absolutely!
I came into this life like a wrecking ball, caused Loki level havoc, while running in circles pulling pants down and lighting mental and emotional fires to make people stop being so serious and to help them remember to laugh, and I plan on going out of this world in a ball of flames, sliding into home plate, yelling YIPPEE!
My best friend says my spirit animal is obviously a pissed off badger, and that I'm really good at kicking crutches out from under people who deserve it. So, move over Loki, I have work to do.
I have had a few pity parties for myself over the years, mainly where I died and was revived, or lost touch with who and what I really am. You tend to get stifled by laws and people with control issues, the Karens of life mainly. When life was over, and they bring you back, a strange melancholy can remain for some time. There is a reason we don't like dying or passing over, and a reason why so many people are afraid of it. Loving light at the end of a tunnel, my ass.
The pity parties also kick in when you work for decades to get your own little castle or transportation, long hours, unpaid overtime, through sickness, putting up with petty tyrants in charge, and then something like the USA health insurance and hospital scams come along and steal everything you worked so long and hard for, driving people into bankruptcy and resetting your life as if you never worked a day of it. The level of hate for such a sick and twisted society can become quite an issue, if you let it get to you. When you do your homework, you figure out that it has been worse in the past in this cesspool, much worse. And you aren't the only one that got run over, or the first one, and likely not the last. The goal should then be to try and help fix this issue, not sit in your poopy diapers and whine about it.
So, I went to the children's cancer ward, where these sick and dying little children were smiling and hoping for a future... and the pity party was over.
I adopted some animals that needed someone to care for them, taking the focus off of my ego and my own issues. Now between my ailing and elderly family that I spend my time on, and the return to my fun and wild Loki spirit, I'm having a great time.
You have to learn to love yourself.
I heard a booming voice that startled me awake when I was 16 years old. I was sleeping with a pyramid power matrix under my pillow, made by Patrick Flanagan. I had just laid my head down, got comfortable, and was doing my relaxation exercises from "The Silva Mind Control Method" when this voice boomed very loudly "You can't love anyone else until you learn to love yourself!"... And suddenly it was already morning, the covers had not moved, I was still in the same position, and I didn't feel like I had slept at all yet.
The point being, we never know when the next exciting thing will come along that leaves us in awe and wonder, leaving us feeling magical and powerful. Had time jumped? Was that the voice of an angel? God? My own spirit? Time to dig in and start learning!
Depression, or pity parties, for me, are always caused by my ego. Ego can be overinflated and self important, and so is anger, annoyance, and many other things that are not really part of my true being. They never last long, because my internal dialogue is not supportive of that type of energy, but my ego laughs in the face of death and jumps up to fix any issues or downsize as necessary without crying over the things that you spent so much time and energy accumulating. This is the me that isn't touched by this cesspool world full of non-stop disasters, pain, suffering, and the ignorance of so many haters and bigots. I will Whoopee Cushion the shit out of that nonsense.
Being aloof is a thing, and a happy go-lucky thing, because my life is not the 'things' I accumulate, or the approval of other people, or giving in to the attempts of the bottom feeders to control and manipulate us.
What are these jerks going to do to me? Kill me? LMFAO! You can't kill me, you can reset me, but I'll be back and up your ass causing trouble before you know it. Give me a cell in a jail where I get everything I need for free and can meditate more often? Bring it on! And why in the world would I be afraid of these people, or respect them? Pffffttt! They don't control me, or own me, and never will.
We can't take this place seriously, or the people around us that are so heavy and morbid, so callous and divided.
We can direct and control our own perch, our own foundation, and empower that every day with a smile, even a malicious one.