My relatives died in my house. How can I work with them?

[wizardofsam]

Hi everyone, this is my first time posting on the forum,I hope this is the right thread; if not, I apologize in advance and will gladly move it according to the mods' instructions.

I don't want to overshare, but essentially, I've been living in my apartment for almost ten years, M29.
Both my grandmother and, two years later, my father passed away in this house, and I witnessed both of their passings. It's been a while. I live with my mom now.
My family has always had a strong connection to the afterlife and everything "extra". there's also some level of neurodivergency going on.
My mother has always had precognitive dreams about people she might not have been in touch with for ages, and without fail, just a few hours later, these people either face massive problems or straight-up die
. On my end, I am not in such a dramatic situation yet, but quite often I get intrusive thoughts about someone I couldn't care less about, and right on cue, something extremely serious is happening to that person at that exact moment. I don't even know how to define this connection.
I inherit these intense perceptions, much like my late grandmother and her mother before her. We have Eastern European roots and my dad was half black.

I recently started studying Chaos Magick to properly direct my energy and achieve results that align with my will. However, I was wondering if anyone here has experience working with deceased relatives or spirits within their own household. I hope I made myself clear, and I'm totally available if you need any clarification...

I'm simply looking for sources—books, videos, studies, anything—to improve these abilities, direct them better, and work with the help of these deceased people, IF they're willing to show up, IF I am able to "call" them and not some other mumbo jumbo that has nothing to do with them!

I don't want to work with my dead father, he can fuck off even in the afterlife.
On the other hand, I had a beautiful relationship with my grandmother. I actually believe she is already guiding me in some way when it comes to these things, because I feel her constant presence even in my dreams. This is probably because my studio is actually in the room that used to be hers and is the one where she passed away.
thank you!

 

[Ohana]

Dreaming and practicing lucid dreaming I think could help. I think I've seen or talked to ghosts in my dreams.

Maybe practice sensing energy and that sort of thing. I think in my expierence at least talking with the dead is more intuitive and abstract that the living. If talking to the living is like interpreting a piece of art of a basic scenery like a waterfall then the dead is like looking at surrealist painting like the one with a clock melting. Except in dreams I think. I think there can be a bit more direct so have to practice lucid dreaming and such.

Maybe pulling some tarot cards or getting a pendulum could also help. I personally have seeing my dead grandma once but she seemed kind of sad about me. Its pretty chill to talk to them. Maybe try to understand your feelings about their deaths which might also open the door for communication. But dreams could help I bet.

 

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please dont. you'll notice if they wish to watch over you but that wont be for a long time. at some point you'll have to say your goodbyes. let the dead pass on with peace.

 

[Ohana]

please dont. you'll notice if they wish to watch over you but that wont be for a long time. at some point you'll have to say your goodbyes. let the dead pass on with peace.

This person did say if the dead themselves are willing to communicate with them. The after a long time part seems a little vague? Is it years out or decades in your opinion? I noticed the dead maybe watching shortly after but that might have been because of another thing.

I don't want to work with my dead father, he can fuck off even in the afterlife.

Hmm might want to do a little ritual to have closure and put the spirit to rest. I've heard in some stories that the ghosts of those who've done wrong in life linger more. So doing something can be small or large to just make peace with that presence could go a long way. It doesn't mean communicating and not really banishing its more like acceptance and then after processing your own emotions afterwards.

On the other hand, I had a beautiful relationship with my grandmother. I actually believe she is already guiding me in some way when it comes to these things, because I feel her constant presence even in my dreams. This is probably because my studio is actually in the room that used to be hers and is the one where she passed away.
thank you

It seems like this person already notices this person watching over them so what does a long time really mean here? I still suggest practicing getting good at lucid dreaming. That could be the way and then seeing if you see any objects connected to them or things they liked and the message that could carry.

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Hmm might want to do a little ritual to have closure and put the spirit to rest. I've heard in some stories that the ghosts of those who've done wrong in life linger more. So doing something can be small or large to just make peace with that presence could go a long way. It doesn't mean communicating and not really banishing its more like acceptance and then after processing your own emotions afterwards.

I guess wanted to add on if you feel no presence of him then technically don't have to do anything. Even if you do sense his presence then if you really don't want to be involved then can wait later to do something or get someone else to help you close out their energy and it affecting your life.

Especially since doing something you don't want to even do on your own might not be great for you personally given what you said about not wanting to deal with this energy. I just gave a heads up that sometimes spirits like thar might linger with thier presence but not to get too alarmed since the situation can be helped.