Were you Irish Catholic, HoldAll? Not a fan of that Catholicism, myself. Cold, northern, bitter. ugh.
Some very devout Mexican Folk Catholics I know be gay onanists.
I would not ever say that is without tension with purely Catechism-level Catholicism , but also not a big deal in much of Mexican Catholicism culture, at least in the North.
I can't argue that the Church officially blesses gay sexual relationships. I do not like that one personally, having gay friends, and it keeps me at a certain distance from the more conservative, normie TradCaths. But I can very much argue that this teaching is what is called non-infallible, and that it is widely contested among theologians and faithful, and that the Church's own principles allow for conscientious disagreement on non-infallible matters.
From an informal Northern Mexican Catholics perspective I'd say masturbate all you want, have non-procreative sex , as long as one dos not turn it into a official sacrament or statement of faith, or you get married to it.
Oh wait. Sorry, Thelemites.
