Over the past three years, I have repeatedly encountered people who, consciously or unconsciously, seem to drain the energy of others through subtle and not-so-subtle dynamics.
What struck me most was not a single episode, but the pattern. Six out of six individuals. Different faces, same energetic signature.
There were recurring elements:
– Scarcity or near absence of food in their homes.
– Chaotic grocery habits.
– Little to no offering or sharing of food with guests.
– Bulimic tendencies or disordered relationships with nourishment.
– Unusual cognitive sharpness paired with acute suffering used as a form of victim positioning.
– Egocentric manipulation, lowering the energy of others through criticism or subtle invalidation.
– Sexual confusion and deep unresolved trauma in that area.
These were not only acquaintances, but friendships and romantic connections.
At a certain point, I had to stop and ask myself a difficult question:
What kind of energy was I attracting?
Was there a part of my own shadow resonating with these archetypes?
Like Odysseus hearing the call of the Sirens, was there something in me drawn toward this frequency?
I am now consciously distancing myself from these dynamics.
Yet the repetition has left a mark. Six out of six with strikingly similar traits.
I have begun to consider whether some of these patterns resemble forms of energetic vampirism. In one case, I am almost certain of it — a person highly skilled in NLP and mental manipulation. The others felt more embryonic, less refined, yet surprisingly effective at an energetic level.
I am not writing this from a place of accusation, but from inquiry.
What is this phenomenon?
Is it projection? Attraction? A mirror?
Or is there truly a dynamic of conscious or unconscious energy extraction at play?
I am reflecting. I am observing.
And most importantly, I am choosing to reclaim my energy.
I take everything as a teaching.
I know I must reflect deeply on this question:
Which part of my personal history carries a familiarity with the idea of having to nourish those who do not know how to nourish themselves?
Because this archetype is not attracted by chance.
Energetic vampirism — or, more precisely, draining dynamics — are drawn in when there is:
– excessive availability
– porous boundaries
– attraction to intense suffering
– fascination with manipulative intelligence
Perhaps I am like Odysseus.
Odysseus did not block his ears because the Sirens were imaginary.
He restrained himself because he knew his own vulnerability to their song.
And in these recent experiences, I am consciously stepping back.
It is not escape.
It is the reclamation of power.
And yet, I would like to share one final reflection.
What concerns me most is the noticeable increase of these dynamics. I see them more and more frequently. And the more clearly I perceive them, the more it seems that others do not.
That is what feels truly alarming.
Because when emotional manipulation, victim positioning, chronic scarcity consciousness, and unconscious energy extraction become normalized, society itself begins to erode from within. Not through visible war, but through subtle emotional violence.
We are witnessing a collective shadow rising to the surface — but without the tools, maturity, or willingness required for true integration. The shadow is no longer being acknowledged as something to work through; it is being acted out, projected, weaponized.
When suffering becomes identity, when depletion becomes relational currency, when criticism replaces nourishment, we are no longer in dialogue — we are in survival mode.
And a society built on unresolved survival cannot create conscious connection.
This is why boundaries are no longer optional. They are evolutionary.
This is not about judging others. It is about recognizing patterns before they consume us. It is about refusing to participate in cycles of unconscious extraction. It is about choosing integration over entanglement.
If there is a collective shadow intensifying, then the work is not to fight it blindly — but to strengthen clarity, discernment, and energetic sovereignty.
The solution is not fear.
It is awareness.
And awareness, when embodied, is protection.
