Big Love Spell No-No, Substantiated or Not?

[silencewaits]

I hear time and time again that 'love spells' are bad; they cause obsession, or they violate free will, or something else of the sorts. So I was wondering if anyone has actually experienced the negative effects of doing such a thing, or if they have heard someone else's account. Bonus cool wizard points if you include the working that caused them.

 

[Zord]

The negative aspect of love spells for you (the person who does the witchcraft) is in most cases due to the binary result. This means that in case of poor protection or other factors, you also experience the effect of the love spell. Love spells are initially intended for sexual intercourse and are closely related to the suppression the will of the "rabbit".
"Rabbit" is a witch/witches' slang for a test subject.

 

[Asteriskos]

First decide WTF you want, LOVE or LUST! They're not mutually exclusive, but they're Not the Same either. Usually trying to force someone who doesn't reciprocate or doesn't even know Who you are will FAIL. I'm Happily Married, I chased Her till She caught Me. We both were into various forms of Magic/k prior to meeting. People do try to exert strong willed / strong armed tactics upon each other but, it's much better to Work upon yourself, as So Many folks have tried to say Over and Over on these forums. Look Good, Smell Good, Dress Well, and then hit whatever "Scene" you think you can fit into! To cut to the chase it's Much easier to cast a LUST spell, there's always someone wanting to get laid, but will she/he want to marry you in morning, that usually takes a bit more Work!

 

[silencewaits]

People do try to exert strong willed / strong armed tactics upon each other but, it's much better to Work upon yourself, as So Many folks have tried to say Over and Over on these forums.

After starting this thread I realized a lot of people discuss or request these things. I intended, with the section I put it in, to discuss more so what actually happens when the 'wrong' kind of love spells were successful. And as a fun bit of information sharing if someone wanted to make that happen for their own reasons--baneful or otherwise.

As for my own opinion, I think people get attached to an idea of someone and become woefully limerent. The need to possess the person comes not out of true desire for the person as they actually are, but a need to ease the emotional suffering the admirer feels at not realizing their obsession. Other times, the person needs to work on themselves. The kind of people they desire may not desire them in their current state--or they need to find another kind of person to attract or be attracted to.

I used to be that way, and now I have too many options that--if I had been born as someone without my peculiar occupation or interests--might have led to something resembling my old desires for a relationship.

 

[Asteriskos]

After starting this thread I realized a lot of people discuss or request these things.

Yeah, but that's because people Want Love (and Lust) in their lives, it's Natural as smelling the Roses! My Wife and I are into Magic/k together as a couple,and we are Blessed to have each other, as well as Friends into it as well! The point that I've seen folks try to stress here is that any Man or Woman will be better served by First being a Man or a Woman! Magick can definitely be used to alter the flow and create Real Synchronicities,
including helping with Love and Lust. I sure wouldn't want someone that had to be "enchanted" to put up with me! Men and Women have a "knack" for getting it on Naturally! A Little Wine, Incense, Food, SEX... Life is Good!

And I apologize if my tone was a little direct. We shouldn't lose sight of ourselves as Men and Women, as well as Magical Practioners, because like Love and Lust, they're Not mutually exclusive! Hope that makes some kind of sense.

 

[Yazata]

The big difference between love magic and all other forms (in my opinion..) is that with other Magick I set a goal and understand that any (small) success is to be seen as a steppingstone towards achieving what I want.
With love magic, if I do a "general spell" and a girl comes into my life who I don't particularly had in mind I can not treat this person as a steppingstone / an object that is only there to get me to where I want to be. By the way, if I do perform general love magic these days the result is pretty much always that I run into my ex who hates me.

This topic (of course) keeps coming up. I posted the Ereshkigal spell for anyone to try. I gave an experience with it here:

Love Spell

I'd like to know your experiences with love spells...

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[Taudefindi]

By the way, if I do perform general love magic these days the result is pretty much always that I run into my ex who hates me.

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[FireBorn]

The big difference between love magic and all other forms (in my opinion..) is that with other Magick I set a goal and understand that any (small) success is to be seen as a steppingstone towards achieving what I want.
With love magic, if I do a "general spell" and a girl comes into my life who I don't particularly had in mind I can not treat this person as a steppingstone / an object that is only there to get me to where I want to be. By the way, if I do perform general love magic these days the result is pretty much always that I run into my ex who hates me.

This topic (of course) keeps coming up. I posted the Ereshkigal spell for anyone to try. I gave an experience with it here:

Love Spell

I'd like to know your experiences with love spells...

wizardforums.com

What stands out to me about your post, Yazata, is that you're not just sharing theory, you're offering lived gnosis, and that hits harder than a thousand recycled book quotes. Especially for someone like me, who lives in the dirt and blood of practical magick, this is gold.

I’ve heard the “moral high ground” arguments about love spells for years, but curiously, no one seems to clutch their pearls when someone casts a spell to land a job, win a court case, or get money. It’s always love spells that get people all twisted up. Makes me go hmmm.

Personally? I’m still feeling it out. I’m relatively new to the spellcasting side of the craft, most of my path until now has been direct communion, trance, and relational gnosis with spirits. But even so, I think I'd rather ask a demon to teach me how to become the kind of man who attracts the woman I want, someone who aligns with my fire. That feels sustainable. Repeatable. Real.

Still… the idea of results is seductive. And if a love spell works, isn’t that also a kind of mirror? What’s it showing me about myself? What current am I really working with? The current I’m initiated into through Lilith has shown me this: own your sexuality, don’t perform it. Be honest. Be raw. Enjoy, without manipulation. That’s the line for me. Not a morality line, but a sovereignty line. If I'm shaping reality, it better be shaped in truth, not illusion.

All that to say, I really appreciate this post. And your experience. It opens up deeper thought than the usual back-and-forth on love spells. Makes me look in the mirror a little longer.