[Help] Emotional Control

[Butterfly Affect]

Sources for control over your emotions. Books or energy manipulation techniques would work... I knew how to once and I forgot.

 

[silentlucidity]

Unironically, prayer. Serenity Prayer is my go to.

 

[frater_pan]

Unregulated emotions is a problem with the chi (vital energy, really one of several) flow in the body.
Therefore prana practice, yoga, internal martial arts and esp. Taoist neigong (a form of meditation focused on chi development and flow in the body) can all help, and in some cases help significantly. However in my experience this only fixes 80% of the problem. You have to develop insight into why your emotions are reacting how they are and for me this is through meditation. For others it can be therapy.

 

[Butterfly Affect]

Unironically, prayer. Serenity Prayer is my go to.

I usually forget the last part of it.

Unregulated emotions is a problem with the chi (vital energy, really one of several) flow in the body.
Therefore prana practice, yoga, internal martial arts and esp. Taoist neigong (a form of meditation focused on chi development and flow in the body) can all help, and in some cases help significantly. However in my experience this only fixes 80% of the problem. You have to develop insight into why your emotions are reacting how they are and for me this is through meditation. For others it can be therapy.

Never heard of neigong... doesn't sound too different from zen meditation. Going to try it.

 

[silentlucidity]

Unironically, prayer. Serenity Prayer is my go to.

I usually forget the last part of it.

I have found when I forget a line - acceptance, courage to change, or wisdom to know the difference - that is my current problem. Most often, the thing I need the courage to change is me and my perceptions.

 

[frater_pan]

I usually forget the last part of it.

Never heard of neigong... doesn't sound too different from zen meditation. Going to try it.

Neigong is quite different from Zen meditation (I have done and still do both). Superficially there are similar. However Zen meditation is really for enlightenment (Buddhist enlightenment). Neigong can also lead to Taoist enlightenment but it's initial results are the building up of chi and it's circulation and purification in the body. A direct side effect of this is that emotional disturbances arising from improper chi flow is eliminated. In my experience (as a formerly psychologically abused child) is that this eliminates about 80% of emotional imbalances. So the primary practice in at least the form of neigong that I was taught IS almost indistinguishable from Zen outwardly. Inwardly the focus for the initial meditation are on two different points in the body (essentially chakras, but not always the well-know chakras, but definitely energy points). This link is an okay introduction to neigong (ironically by a teacher my former Taoist teacher doesn't like too much, still the intro is not bad).

Qigong may also be useful. And Zen meditation can also be helpful because it will promote internal realization/self-discovery. Of course Zen meditation is also an energy meditation system but it is much less so than neigong and/or qigong.

 

[Morell]

Sources for control over your emotions. Books or energy manipulation techniques would work... I knew how to once and I forgot.

If you mean gaining control of your mind in meaning not being controlled by your emotions when they are strong and you need to think clearly, the simples of all is to take a breath, taking a deep breath is excellent and easy way to center and calm yourself, especially after practicing it for some time.
Great practice that I do is to go on chat and taking deep breath before writing any message, especially when reacting and/or debating.

 

[Butterfly Affect]

If you mean gaining control of your mind in meaning not being controlled by your emotions when they are strong and you need to think clearly, the simples of all is to take a breath, taking a deep breath is excellent and easy way to center and calm yourself, especially after practicing it for some time.
Great practice that I do is to go on chat and taking deep breath before writing any message, especially when reacting and/or debating.

A bug went up my nose as I tried it. Now what?

 

[Morell]

A bug went up my nose as I tried it. Now what?

(joke) Debug.

 

[Anziel_Merkaba]

Sources for control over your emotions. Books or energy manipulation techniques would work... I knew how to once and I forgot.

Are you asking for mental techniques to improve your self control and ability to not react emotionally to things? Or are you asking for methods to control other people's emotions?

For the former, any sort of meditation would help although a person's emotional response is heavily dependent on the type of personality they have. The trick is to find methods that work for you, whether it's empty mind meditation, martial arts, taking a deep breath before letting yourself react, ect. The common thread is building self-discipline and actively working to rectify the habits you find detrimental to your emotional state. There are no shortcuts, at least none without significant drawbacks.

For the latter, you'll probably want to check the LHP or Energy Manipulation and Vampirism sections of the forum.

 

[Dascent]

There's no need for control over emotions.
Emotions serve a purpose. What needs to be "controlled" (better yet, observed) is the reaction.
Only a state of awareness (aka Observer's state) can stop the reaction (reactivity/auto pilot) and offer a new dimension to emotions.