I personally feel that having a relationship with Jesus, has nothing to do with going to Church.
I know as much about Jesus as one can learn from the Bible, and a bit more based on additional reading over the years. I am left feeling ambivalent about Christianity in the general sense. In theory, it could be beneficial. It has been in place for nearly two thousand years and adapted to a variety of cultures in Asia, Africa, and Europe for long periods of time. I'm thinking about Eastern Orthodox Churches in particular. Compared to that, in the West, especially in America, we're like plants that have been uprooted many times and somehow sense that the drought is upon us. Systems we were told would always last appear to have an expiration date, and the 'milk' is already getting that sour taste.
Now, perhaps I'm just suffering from a 'grass is greener' syndrome, and the Eastern Orthodox churches are in just as much trouble, but my point is that isolation isn't a very happy way to survive during difficult times, and it seems that everything done in the West (Europe and America) for some time now has been to break people apart, to make us all isolated against the power of the State, and yet dependent on it all the same. So, if that's what you want, that's what you'll have. I find myself at times envying the community spirit of Amish and Mennonites. At the same time I'm disgusted at the cult of Jehovah's Witnesses that I'm all too familiar with which appears to have community on the surface, but it is just a show as long as they think they can pull you into their "truth."
For me personally the community IS the point of Christianity, as the Gospels show Jesus interacting with the common people. Later, Paul, Peter and others would write letters to the congregations of Christians. It is clear that no one was acting in isolation. If the Jesus you come to know does not encourage you to interact with the wider community, then you should wonder if it really is him. I say that from the perspective of an occultist with the knowledge that not all spirits are who they claim to be.