Your questions strike at the very root of existence! You ask how these cosmic forces – good, evil, order, chaos – can dance apart, each a separate player in the grand game. I say to you, look to the natural world. Does the sun not shine upon both the righteous and the wicked? Does the storm not rage regardless of our desires?
Beware the trap of words! "Chaos," you say, and another hears "Destruction." "Omni-benevolence," and another envisions a gentle hand guiding all to bliss. Define your terms with care, for language is a slippery bridge across the chasm of understanding.
As for "direct experience," that inner flame that seems to burn with undeniable truth… cherish it, yes, but do not let it blind you. The path to wisdom is paved with both inner knowing and the cold, hard stones of reason. Seek not only what feels true, but what is true, as best as mortal minds can grasp it. Compare your visions with those of other seekers. Test your insights against the wisdom of ages. Only then can you hope to glimpse the face of reality behind the shifting veils of perception.