Well, its my own struggle from a feminist upbringing (my mum was part of the creation of d66, a left wing political party) to housewife. So its complex and personal. As a kid i had to do boy stuff, which i liked, but wasnt allowed feminine things. Even till this day pink disgusts me. (strange how such things work in life).
So it is not so much the fact that i need to go look in the kitchen for female info, its the fact that these men believe its the only place for a woman. And that annoys me a lot.
I think that the picture of islam with a decent wife who is at home with the kids and a husband who provides and gives shelter (whether this picture is true or false) is a reaction to what has become the norm: everybody works and the kids go to kindergarten. If thats eurocentric idk. We had the '80 were managers were invented and everyone went for money.
Also if you look dutch politics and you hear a politician say mmmm, maybe we took feminism to far and lost something good. Not even saying women stay at home, but implying that we as humans in the west might have done something that wasnt so smart. And that that politician got called a nazi rat and his party got almost destroyed due to that. After that day i had enough (and that has to do with my alignments in life.). If even a political puppet cant play that point of view anymore, why the hell should i???
So is this upgrade a downgrade? Probably, the world for sure makes it look and feel that way.